We know that planning a wedding can be stressful! And we want to help make sure that choosing the perfect music for your wedding is as painless as possible. We've put together some pointers for how to pick your music selections and put together your ceremony!
The first place we recommend starting is by deciding what kind of "vibe" you want your wedding to have, and pinpointing what styles of music you want. There are no wrong answers here! Don't be afraid of mixing genres. If you want elegant, classical music, but you also love the Beatles, we can do that! Maybe you want to build your ceremony off of modern pop tunes and timeless love songs. Or perhaps you are having a religious ceremony and want to incorporate hymns and other sacred tunes. That's great too! The style of music that you choose will really set the tone and the vibe of your wedding.
Another great starting point is to decide if there are any specific songs that you absolutely love and you simply must incorporate into your ceremony. We love special requests, so if there's a song you've had on your mind, just ask!
Below is our guide for selecting music. If you need any help at all, please reach out to us--we've played hundreds of weddings, and choosing songs is our specialty!
The Music Selection Process
1. Once you have an idea of the flow of your ceremony, make a rough list of how many songs you think you'll need. (more on that below)
2. Decide what vibe you want your wedding to have. What do you want the atmosphere to feel like? Do you want your ceremony to have a traditional feel of elegant, classical songs? Do you want your cocktail hour to have a fun, upbeat feel with modern tunes? There is no wrong choice! Go with what feels true to who YOU are!
3. Select your favorite tunes from our existing list, which can be found here, and if there are tunes that you'd like but you don't see them on our list, contact us! We write a lot of our own sheet music, meaning that we can write a custom string arrangement of about any song you'd like. More info on new song requests can be found here.
4. After you've chosen your songs, fill out the form here with your selections! We like to have the song list finalized at least 4 weeks in advance, or longer if we need to learn tunes that aren't already in our repertoire list.
How many songs should I choose?
Prelude The prelude is a full half hour of music, which is typically 8-10- songs. We understand that choosing that many songs can be daunting, so we are happy to put together a set list for you that will complement your genre preferences.
Seating of the Family Many people like to choose a special song to be played here, but if you are only having a couple of family members being seated, we often recommend that they be seated either during the prelude, or during the bridal party song in order to keep the ceremony flowing as smoothly as possible. Less song changes can help everything feel more congruent.
Wedding Party We definitely recommend choosing a special song here! We recommend choosing a song that's not too fast or too slow. Try choosing something that's a moderate tempo and easy to walk to.
Bride's/Groom's Entrance Choose a special song here that you know you'll LOVE!
Music During the Ceremony If you are doing a unity ceremony (lighting of unity candles, knot tying ceremony, sand pouring, etc.) that's a great place to have background music played. Just keep in mind that this is usually a pretty short length of time, so we would typically only be playing a short snippet of the melody.
Recessional We recommend choosing something fun and upbeat here! You all will be married at this point, and we want a song to reflect how ecstatic you'll feel!
Cocktail Hour and Reception For us, every hour of music equates to about 20 songs. For this reason, we recommend that you simply tell us a few of your favorite songs and what styles of music you want, and we will build an awesome set list from there!
"Can I choose songs that aren't in your repertoire list?"
Absolutely! In fact, we LOVE learning new songs! However, we have fees associated with special song requests. We write a lot of our own arrangements, and we charge a flat $100 for "new song" fees, which not only goes to cover the time spent writing the new music, but also our practice time that goes into making sure your songs sound great! Keep in mind that it takes a bit longer to write and learn new songs, so be sure to plan ahead and request your new songs early!
For more info, contact Amber at email@example.com, or 770-500-5813